Your Mommy Blog DOESN’T Suck … and Here’s Why

Some people can be real bullies, and bloggers are no exception. There's no shortage of awful posts towards other bloggers out there, and I'm sure I've been guilty of doing it at one time or another as well. My hope with this post is that you'll see how cruel some bloggers are, and vow to never BE like those bloggers. Today's post is about one post specifically, written by Josi Denise. I realize the point of her writing the post was to be cruel, to hurt people, and most of all to get attention. Most of her posts have zero interaction, so this post has definitely accomplished what she set out to accomplish.

I'm giving Josi that attention and I'm okay with it because I hope this helps her understand why she should step back and look at herself instead of projecting onto all mommy bloggers. I'm not the only one:

Dear Josi Denise is another blogger's response to Josi's hate.
Someone Tried to Throw Us Under the Bus is a great post about how Josi's post failed on a huge level.
I'm a Mommy Blogger and I Effing Like it sums it up nicely: what you say about others, says more about you.

Josi admits her blog has sucked for a long time. That's depressing, man. Putting all that work in and still having a sucky blog will bring anyone down… but that doesn't mean you need to try and bring others down with you. Discouraging moms (or anyone!) from starting a blog is so not my thing. I want everyone in the world to start a blog! Blogging is my jam, man.

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Here are a few highlights from Josi's post (unlinked, not giving her any more traffic). Hers are in quotes. My responses are below.

“NOBODY IS READING YOUR SHIT. I mean no one. Even the people you think are reading your shit? They aren’t really reading it.” – Josi Denise

People do read your shit. When you pour your heart and soul into a post, we're reading it! Your stats might not be through the roof, and they'll never compete with Pinch of Yum's millions of pageviews each month, but you have genuinely interested followers and we absolutely love you for being honest with us.

When Melody wrote about her first Mother's Day without a Mom, I cried for her. My heart literally broke. The post where Summer talks about how messy marriage can be, it's so relatable. It's real. It's raw. Katie wrote about how to save $100 a month, and while that might not seem like a lot to some, when you're trying to build credit and buy a house, it's a huge deal. Katie also writes about depression. As someone that battles depression on a regular basis, I am so thankful for her. I've made many bloggy friends (Stacie, Meagan, David, Katie, and too many to name, really.), and I love them all.

To the Mom Who Feels Defeated … this is a post written by one of my favorite bloggers, and is a must read. 5 Lies Bloggers Tell is another post where the writer is telling it like it is, but without being a total see-you-next-Tuesday about it. There's a productive way to rant, without being so mean!

My point is, we are reading your posts! Even if your post only reaches 5 people, you could change five lives that day. Don't get discouraged. You got this.

“your shit is boring. Nobody cares about your shampoo you bought at Walmart and how you’re so thankful the company decided to work with you. Nobody cares about anything you are saying” – Josi Denise

Your shit is not boring. Trust me when I say I laugh out loud when I read some of your posts. They are the highlight of my day. When Jen posts, well pretty much anything, it's almost always a guaranteed smile – or at least a head nod. “Who knew pork roast could lead to sexting?” … how can you not laugh at that? How is that boring? Answer: it's not. Even sponsored posts don't have to be boring! See: 13 Reasons Bladder Leakage is Awesome

“THERE’S NO WAY IN HELL YOU ARE ACTUALLY THAT HAPPY” – Josi Denise

It's okay to be happy. And it's okay to tell us all that you're happy! We also hope you share the real shit, you know, when your kid throws his plate and says he's not eating. Or when your daughter says “bitch” at preschool. Whatever it is, share with us! Let us know how your day's going… good or bad! (Exclamation points for emphasis, and also because Josi apparently hates them.)

My life is far from perfect. I try to balance it out and blog about the good (like my Coming Out Story) and the bad (like my story about Ling). I don't want my blog to be full of rants about my asshole kids, or my asshole husband/wife/etc. That's not my thing. My thing is honesty, and I do try to be positive even when I'm having a shitty day. Why? Because someone else always has it worse and I want to lift them up instead of trying to bring them down.

“every single blogger is terrified to tell the truth.” – Josi Denise

I am not afraid to tell the truth, and you shouldn't be either. Okay, so in fairness, I know that some bloggers do fluff rainbow and sunshine up unicorn's asses all day long when it comes to reviews. I'm not gonna lie, it's annoying. If this is you, stop doing it. You aren't going to lose PR companies, you aren't going to lose reviews, and your blog will not suffer if you tell the truth in a tactful way. When I read your reviews, I believe you. It's okay to be different, it's okay to say something sucks, just say what you mean and mean what you say.

A little dose of truth:

Instant Pot Yogurt Recipe – where I was reviewing an Instant Pot and it sucked, and their customer service sucked, and I told everyone about it.
Dear Absent Parent – where I wrote about absentee loser parents.
5 Reasons Miss America Should Be White – just gotta read it to believe it.

“GIVEAWAY ENTRIES ARE NOT REAL FANS” – Josi Denise

Giveaway fans are real fans. Did you know that most of my loyal readers are ones that found me from giveaways back in the day when I did giveaways all the time? If I do a thread on Facebook asking how everyone found my blog, about 25% say from Cafemom, 5% are from friends of friends, and 70% say they found me from giveaways. They will say I'm the only blogger they stuck with after the giveaway, so it does seem rare but it's possible to keep the giveaway fans. Don't be hatin' cuz your giveaway fans didn't stick around, Josi.

“YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME” – Josi Denise

You are not wasting your time. If you love blogging, if it makes you happy, you are not wasting your time. Do what makes you happy, regardless of what jealous ass bitches think.

You are valuable. Don't you dare let anyone tell you that just because you blog about this subject instead of that subject, or because you do this instead of that, that you're not an amazing blogger. You bring value to the blogging world and you've gotta keep trucking on.

Having a blog is amazing. It's opened so many doors for me and I love helping others start their blogs. I have made a full-time living from home off and on for about ten years now, because of my love for all things bloggy!

Blogging can suck. I know it's tough when you don't see the stats go up. I know Facebook interaction sucks. I know everything can suck at times, especially when you see people claiming to make $100,000+ a year and you can barely cover expenses. I know it, I get it. I feel you. Write for yourself, not for the numbers. The rest will fall into place. When you need encouragement, reach out to other bloggers that get you … not ones that want to tear you down while trying to build themselves up. Dear Angry Mommy Blogger

TLDR: 3 fast facts about Josi's post:

1 – She was a mommy blogger, and she admits to inflating her stats and lying to her readers, as well as working with companies she hated. She's a hypocrite, talking shit about bloggers writing sponsored posts yet she wrote one like… last week. And, she has ads, pop ups, and even a donation request at the end of every post! It's definitely a case of the pot calling the kettle black when you wanna talk about “shitty blogs” and you have all of these things.

2 – She uses “fuck” or some variation of it at least 12 times in her post. Point being, she's trying waaaaay too hard to impress the cool kids with this one.

3 – She makes some great points, but I don't really care because her delivery was atrocious and cruel.

EFF what ya heard… your blog rocks, no matter what the haters say! Keep on keepin' on. Leave your blog link as a comment if you want. I'm always happy to find new blogs to read.

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Sadie Roach is a Lifestyle blogger living in Arizona with her wife, Rachel, and their three daughters. Her passions including traveling, attempting healthy living, and teaching women how to work from home so they can spend more time with their kids.

31 COMMENTS

  1. My mommy blog does not suck either. I have written some pretty tounge in cheek sponsored posts and I am over all proud of who I am. Thank you for writing this. This Blogger vs blogger bashing is old.

  2. I had to go read her post to see what the fuss was all about. I do agree with you about her having some great points BUT she went about it all so wrong and very cruel. The ending was especially cruel and any new blogger reading it will feel beaten down by time they get to that part and WILL quit. I know I have fallen into the sponsored/review posts pit many times and I always try to pull myself out so I don’t look like everything I write is paid for. We are supposed to be lifting each other up, not bringing each other down.
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  3. Loved this, Sadie! I feel so bad for that blogger. She must be feeling terrible about her life to want to tear everyone else down. She’s sad to me. If blogging makes her so unhappy then her ass needs to find something else to do. I love my sucky blog :)

  4. I could about cry right now. Thank you. I JUST read Josie’s post 5-10 minutes before coming across yours. Hubby was talking to me, and I said “I’m just re-evaluating my life. Maybe bloggings not for me”.
    But you said it – blogging has opened up an amazing number of doors for me that wouldn’t be there otherwise. It’s helped make some real honest to goodness friendships I wouldn’t have otherwise, and it got me through PPD twice.
    SO Thank you, for helping me re-evaluate my re-evaluation. Time to make my blog a bit less sucky, but I’ll still be blogging.
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  5. Preach. I drink your kool-aid. I’m a mommy blogger who sometimes think I SUCK but reality is I don’t. My WHY is kid memories…and so what if sponsored posts sometimes make really awesome memories. Love it.

  6. Bravo! I’m not a Mommy Blogger, but that post was just harsh. It wasn’t honest in the least, it was being a bitch calling it “honesty” — super unappealing. This post? That’s what honesty looks like. Far too many people get “being an ass to people” and “honesty” mixed up.

  7. I just started blogging. I have always been just the ghostwriter, but I read blogs. I love reading and learning new things. If it wasn’t for the internet I would be lost;/ Thanks for sticking up for all us “sucky bloggers” out there.

  8. This was awesome and I love you for it! I share about my colorful family life at https://NspiyahdLife.com and I thought her rant was just a show of how badly her life is falling apart. “No ones husband can love them that much cuz mine left” type sh*t…but it’s all good. I think she lit a torch in all of us. I’ve come up with at least 5 transparent blog titles today alone… So thanks Jo, I hope somebody hugs you…soon!

  9. Oh but she’s SO EDGY AND RAW because she uses “fuck” 12 times in her 3 jillion word blog post.

  10. I love what you have to say but I wish you would unlink her post – that’s how bad I hated it! lol.

  11. I am a newer mommy/nonnie blogger 47. I was suprised to see such a Blog post,wow that woman’s post was very harsh. You would think companies wouldn’t want to have her do anything after a post like that ?

  12. I didnt read Josi’s post because well…I was too busy living my fabulous life of poopy diapers, running my blog solo dolo and making sure my black doesn’t crack any time soon. That shit is hard son! No not really, I have great genes. But seriously, I’ll never apologize for posting about my dope marriage, that actually IS good because we work hard at it or actually being happy because I actually am. Not every friggin’ day, but most days Im genuinely really good. Im blessed and have been through some thangs that make me greatful for the time I have with the people I love. So Eff all the Josie’s that want to throw salt in my game. Hopefully when they’re done sippin’ on those haterade margaritas, they’ll check out my superficial blog where I write about stuff like beauty, life and women in business http://naturallystellar.com

  13. I needed this. I was so personally sad after her post; I took it personally. Thank you for building back up the wall she took a wrecking ball to.

  14. I LOVE other mom-bloggers because of posts like this, because MOST of us are trying to support, empathize with and encourage OTHER moms.
    Posts like Josi’s cause us all more self-doubt and that’s certainly something none of us need more of. I think the thing that irritated me most about her post was the irony of it. Like she and only she is the exception to all of these things. Oh and the email pop-ups and ‘support me’ link at the bottom were just icing on the ironic cake.

    Thank you, for being that voice of encouragement!! I’m going to share this in my post! (hope that’s okay!)

  15. Reality check: there are more people out there who click + scroll away than there are people who actually see any type of ‘value’ in mommy blogging. The fact that you latch on to one person just goes to show how desperate you all are to maintain your echo chambers.

    I also find it incredibly ironic that a vast majority of those offended by josie/Joni? Whatshername post are raising hue and cry over her use of profanity as if it was the first time someone has done it, or as if it was a big deal. It’s not. I guarantee every single one of you has been profane and innapropriate and yet here you all are tittering like shocked third graders whispering “did she just say the F word!?!” Yes she did. Get over it. There are bigger problems in the world than what the world thinks of mommy bloggers.

    • “Grow up”, funny how your IP matches Josi’s city, and I used her name in this post SEVERAL times yet you still said “josie/joni” as if you’re trying to go above and beyond and prove that Josi and yourself are not one in the same. Move along.

  16. Guess im a sucky mommy blogger! Didnt know her then don’t care to know her now! Anything for page views and interactions I guess and so much for being humble and kind. Xoxo from Roe over at gigglesnlaundry.com peace out!

  17. I’m not even going to get started on that other chicks blog post. “She who shall not be named or linked back to” is a hypocrite of the highest order. I read mom blogs all the time. Like you said… Many have made me laugh, cry, turned my day totally around from sucking to feeing a lot better. When I’m so mad at my husband I could just cry or hit him in the head with something big… I will see a post about marriage or relationships that will calm me down and realize relationships just suck some times and it WILL be okay. I was seriously contemplating divorce a few months back and I ran across a mom blog & the post was titled something along the lines of “I’m not perfect but I forget my husband isn’t perfect either”. That post saved my darn marriage. It was a religious post sprouting bible passages, it was a post that was simple and REAL! I live in a house with all males. Hubby and 3 boys (plus 1 more son comes over part time) and a boy dog! That’s a lot for any woman to handle. I’m the sole female.. Well besides my girl cat who does her own thing. Anyways..these men like men stuff. I fee left out, over worked, and never fee appreciated. So when I see a post that a mom blogger writes about the SAME THING I appreciate it and I do read it! Anyways… Thanks Sadie!

  18. ALL of the blogs that I read are written by mother’s. Yes, people do read them. My favorite ones are The Bloggess (not really a mommy blog, but she IS a mother), This is Mommyhood (funny!), and Mommy Shorts.
    ….Oh, and, err, slapdashmom!

  19. I found you from giveaways and you are the only one I still follow,interact with and love. I want to look at this bitch’s page so bad but don’t want to help her get page views or whatever at all. Sadie you are awesome. I don’t always agree with you but you are always honest and I’ve never seen you be cruel.

  20. I remember the same criticism and comments from when I started blogging in 2004.

    Blogging has been a wonderful experience and changed my life in a million positive ways. I have learned about myself, made good friends and had some great experiences.

    I have kept at it because I love to write and it is fun. Fun is the key word, it’s why we last or don’t.

    Find the fun in blogging and ignore the naysayers.

  21. I read Josi’s post over the weekend and was seriously appalled. Such a narrow-minded person lumping everyone into the same box. She is no doubt tired of the mommy blogging scene, but damn…exit gracefully!

    What’s really funny, is I actually met her at a conference a couple years ago. She was there, sponsored by a brand!
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    • Kecia, that’s epic. She is a hypocrite x1000. She’s got ads all over her blog while she’s talking about how mommy blogs suck and they’re all sell outs. Crazy.

  22. Yay for you. Standing up to the haters. I teach creative writing and one thing I tell writers who are just starting out (many creating their first blog) – you have to be brave and you have to write for you and nobody else. Putting your insides on the page is risky, but real writing requires that you check your ego at the door and you make yourself vulnerable. Sadly, some people don’t appreciate or respect that (or practice it themselves) Thanks for this post and for encouraging bloggers/writers/moms everywhere. You rock.

  23. She sounds insecure honestly. The truth is the Blogosphere is so huge there is room for everyone and fyi the mommy blog network is huge! I enjoy engaging with all different bloggers and blogs. I read a few mom blogs eventhough I am past that stage in my life, they are so funny. I’ve never openly hated on anyone in blogging because I’m mature and professional. Don’t sweat it. Haters gonna hate. I have a facebook group where we embrace all bloggers I know blogging can be cliquey.

  24. Well, I unfortunately know said hypocrite personally. And I’m here to tell you she is nothing but fake. She moved back to Southern IN from FL about a year or two ago, found a guy from high school that she could woo and mooch off of. Moved her three kids in with him. He bought her a vehicle, financially supported her and her children, then the two of them had a child together. After she got “famous” for her bashing, she convinced this guy to quit his job at a college so she could pursue writing a book because it was too difficult to write and take care of FOUR kids. (she thought living off of the government assistances and child support that she actually DOES receive, even though her blog stated she doesn’t, would get them by.)

    Well, now they’re begging people for money, just sold all of their belongings, and are moving across the US with no real plan, and leaving the four children behind with her mom for “about a month or so”

    POINT BEING: Someone who is doing this terrible in life, will do whatever she can to bring down others and get as much attention (and money) with the least work possible.

    Don’t be like her.

    Be like you.

    • Wow! That makes a lot more sense now. Gotta build each other up… tearing down does no good.

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