Yep… I guess I’ve been marked as THAT parent at the school. When I walk in, the secretary huffs and puffs. She knows if I’m there (and not wearing my volunteer badge or bringing cookies to pass out) that it’s not a good thing. I have had nothing but problems this year with the school my girls are going to, and I go up to the principal’s office to address every. single. one of them.
In all fairness, some of the problems aren’t the school’s fault. Some problems are caused by the bullies. Others, by my 7 year old coming home and relaying a story and me going WHAT THE HELL and rushing up there to talk to the principal about it. Most of the time, things work out. The principal knows that I’m a very involved mom, and that I’m not going to yell at her for disciplining my kids if the time comes. She also knows if my kids are getting bullied, I’ll be the first one up there making sure the administration handles it.
Today, I talked to the Vice Principal (she’s new). She pretended to care about my concerns, but when I looked away to see what was going on beside me, I saw her roll her eyes at another teacher – about me. So, while I thought she was being nice, she was just being a fake ass. Big surprise? Not really, but disappointing.
Anyway, yesterday, Grace (she’s 7) came home saying that a boy that’s been bullying her (calling her a lesbian, etc) punched her. So she kicked him, and got written up. She came home crying, saying she had to clean the bathroom every day until Halloween and also miss recess until then. That sounded pretty crazy to me, so I took her up there this morning to find out what was going on. After discussing it with the VP, who kept saying she had no idea what happened blah blah blah, I went downstairs to say bye to the kids and found the principal. Convenient, right? :) I swear it wasn’t planned. I just said hey… I don’t know why you gave her 3 weeks bathroom duty for defending herself, but I would like to chat about it some time to see how we can prevent it in the future.
She laughed. She didn’t give Grace bathroom duty. The VP said it was a scare tactic some of the teachers used. So Grace heard it from some kids at school and took it to heart when they told her she would have to be on bathroom duty through Halloween. The principal assured me they don’t have the kids clean the bathrooms – and I assured her I actually wouldn’t mind that being my daughter’s punishment IF she did something wrong.
The principal actually just gave Grace a warning. I told her I think she should miss at least one recess, so if she doesn’t miss recess today I will make sure she does on Monday (no school tomorrow).
You see, I’m not THAT parent… I’m not how the administration of the school thinks I am because I’m up there talking to the principal almost every week. I’m an involved parent. I’m a parent that doesn’t take anything at face value and if my kids come home saying something, I fact check it. Do they lie to me? No, not that I know of. But this isn’t my first rodeo, and I wasn’t a kid that long ago, so I know how shit works. I trust my girls – and will until they give me a reason not to – but I’m not the parent that runs up there flying off the handle … so I guess I lied in this title afterall because I’m not really THAT parent. :)