So if you follow my random posts on Facebook at all, you’ll know my partner (er, girlfriend?) chimes in almost every time I mention her, to shout from the roof tops that she’s my GIRLFRIEND not my PARTNER. :)
She says “partner” sounds like “business partner”, and not as serious as an actual relationship. Every time I say partner, she rolls her eyes, or gets all Hulk like:
I say “partner” sounds more serious than “girlfriend”, because “girlfriend” could mean like… we’ve been together for 2 weeks or something. It doesn’t sound as REAL to me.
(That us, on the left!)
We’ve been together for almost 4 years, and yes we are engaged but if I say “fiance”, then people automatically assume I’m talking about a man – so to avoid that mess, I would prefer “partner”. She prefers girlfriend.
Warning: If you agree with her, she will gloat… and dance just like THIS ^^
And then I’ll be like THIS ^^
So, which do YOU think sounds right? Help us decide!!
*P.S.* This is just a playful debate, don’t give me crap about how we shouldn’t get married if we can’t decide on something so simple. ;)
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by SlapDashMom
Nyssa - You’re both right. What matters is that you love each other. Labels don’t make the relationship. <3
Trinitie - Sadie,
I think girlfriend sounds so much better. I agree that partner sounds like you guys have a business together. She *is* your girlfriend so she should have the title. Orrrrr you could say “life partner”. IDK just my $0.02
Val - Maybe you could use the word Life partner..???
SlapDashMom - LOL She’d KILL me if I said life partner! Maybe if I start saying “life partner” she will compromise and say “partner” instead? hahaha
Val - Although.. even in a straight relationship until you are married you are girlfriend, or boyfriend.. You could say long time girl friend to make it sound more serious if you wanted to..
Jenny - Just say this is my better half. :)
Sarah - Sorry, but I lol’d and kind of agreed with Rachel. I would want to be called girlfriend or something that signifies we are in a romantic relationship. Maybe reach a compromise and say life partner?
Btw, Rachel……..I wanna see that dance! Lol
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SlapDashMom - But I’m the better half!! lol
SlapDashMom - LOL Sarah, she’d kill me if I said life partner. Everyone is agreeing with herrrr! NOOOOOOOOOOOO! *sobs*
Pam - Great Debate~ I agree with the both of you either one works however “partner” does sound like business and girlfriend does sound like “friend”. Why not “WIFEY” – I know your not married but I called my boyfriend hubby for years then we got married 6 yrs later.
Sarah Nolan - Maybe say “My main beotch” then? lol
I’d either say girlfriend, fiance’, or something along those lines. Those who know you guys (or, in my case as well as the case of many others “know” you) know who you are talking about and so does she. That’s what’s important.
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Sarah Nolan - You could say my other half…..When Matthew is being a penis, I drop his status from husband to other half. ‘Cause I’m the better half too. lol
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KKin - I say partner bc girlfriend could mean a girl… thats a friend and be just as confusing.
SlapDashMom - My other half. GENIUS! :)
Jamie - Why not wifey? lol Jk! I say fiance, Call it like it is! ;-)
Those who matter don’t mind, those who mind – Don’t matter!
Barbie - I personally dislike partner, myself. The word makes me feel strange. I was thinking about how you say it rather than girlfriend a lot. Then I thought…. It does sound more serious than just “girlfriend”. Like you two are in it for the long haul. Life partners. So my end answer is I see both of your sides. Short answer, I’m
Unhelpful.
SlapDashMom - I used to say wifey, actually. I love it. :) Someone called me out on us not actually being married, though, and I felt dumb using it after that. :( lol
Paige Jagan - How about “My soon to be Wife”?
Sarah Nolan - Well….I AM kinda smart……..lol
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SlapDashMom - Oh I like that. It would work in some situations. :)
SlapDashMom - I used to say girlfriend and then quite a few people said it didn’t sound “serious”, so I got all paranoid. I don’t want people to think she’s just a fling LOL.
Marisa - I will help ya out Sadie! My husband IS my partner. When he was gone all last week, I struggled to do everything all on my own and honestly, I caught myself thinking “Man, I miss my partner!” Sure, I missed my lover and best friend, but I am lucky enough to have a marriage that is 100% a partnership. I missed his support and having back-up with the kids, and I missed having someone there to tell me I was doing okay. Luckily he did the last part through text every single day because he knew how much I would need to hear it.
Besides, you guys are in the business of managing a family and household together. ;)
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Melody - I agree with KKin. I like partner better too…also you’re not 12 anymore, so girlfriend sort of sounds like you’ve been together for a few weeks…. Being a partner IS business like…It takes WORK to keep it together whether you’re gay or straight…. I say it is what it is…She can call you her girlfriend, and you can call her your partner :). Compromise! lol
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Pam - Totally agree Jamie!
Megan Bidwell - I hate the term ‘partner’. I really do. My girlfriend is my girlfriend, and my friends that are females are my friends. She is my girlfriend, not somebody I’m working with. I stand with her on this one. I really hate it when someone asks about my partner. I correct them by responding that I’ve been with my GIRLFRIEND for over 2 years. Partner just rubs me the wrong way…
shannon - Partner does sound business like but girlfriend does sound casual that is a tough one. If you want call her your wife.
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anna - We use the term partner…actually my wife prefers the term “wife”. I think the terms partner or wife equate it with the level of commitment of a marriage. I agree that term girlfriend implies less of a commitment and doesn’t challenge society to take our relationships seriously.
Ginger - I can see both sides. The one I really hate is when people say “this is my lover.”
Susan Bewley - Maybe I’m crazy but I agree with you. I hated being called my husband’s ‘girlfriend’ before we were married. We were together for 10 years before we were married and it just felt…wrong and meaningless using girlfriend. At the same time, when I think of partner, I think of business partner or roommate. Hmmm…I HATE there really isn’t a word to explain that type of relationship!
As for fiance, why care what other people think? I know my lesbian friend are happy to say it just to get under people’s skin :) If society can’t handle it – they can shove it IMO.
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Caitlin Nicole - Yikes, tough call! I don’t like “girlfriend” because it sounds high schoolish to me. It doesn’t sound as serious as partner to me, so I’m inclined to agree with you. I never liked the terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” even when I was in high school because it just sounds weird to me.
I dunno, when someone says “partner” I don’t think of “business” or an accomplice of some sort like most people do.
I call my fiance hubby and he calls me wifey. *shrug* Haha. I say use “fiance,” like Susan suggested, but I can imagine how that might end up getting frustrated and/or redundant (with having to correct people).
Good luck with this one, haha!
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