Everyone knows when you get a group of women together – online or off – you will have drama. Even if we are all grown women, with children, and all working towards similar goals. Even when we should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down, it just happens. Drama. Drama. Drama.
For as controversial as my blog can get at times, I feel I’ve done a fairly decent job at avoiding the drama for the most part. I love my fellow bloggers and while we don’t always see eye to eye, I still help them in any way that I can. When someone asks questions, I answer them. I don’t always know the right answers, but I try. Many other bloggers are the same way. They’ve helped me out so much, and lord knows I’ve asked enough questions.
But one thing has been rubbing me the wrong way about a certain situation where someone makes everything about race. Any time there is a post by this someone for other bloggers, it’s for Latin bloggers or African-American bloggers. Rarely does she post something that is inclusive of Caucasian bloggers. I get that opportunities come for certain people at certain times. And I get that white people had it easy for years when others didn’t, but excluding us now serves what purpose, exactly? To divide us??
I joked about wanting to be let into the “white bloggers group” (knowing one didn’t exist, and in the same sentence as asking about “lesbian blogger groups” or “tall blogger groups” because I am 6’2″), and got called racist and jealous. I’m not jealous of those opportunities, I just wonder why in the world any brand would want to exclude someone because of their race? That’s not very politically correct… and you know businesses these days need all the brownie points they can get – with every race.
According to Miriam Muléy, founder of the 85% Niche, collectively, African-American, Latina, Asian, and other ethnic women are the largest niche, 85% to be exact. Muley, who has done extensive market research on marketing to women of color, states that women of color are the quintessential market and encompass 54 million of Americans. – This information was taken from The Niche Mommy’s Blog.
So wait. If white folks only make up 15% of mom bloggers, that would mean I’m a minority, right? And as a minority, I’m being passed up because of the color of my skin?
Didn’t someone famous (and non-white) once say that he wished everyone would be judged by the content of their character instead of the color of their skin?
Judge me by the content of my blog, by my talent, by my personality. But do not judge me because of the lack of pigment in my skin.
Why is it okay to say “Looking for Latina bloggers”, but not “Looking for Caucasian bloggers”? It’s great that brands and businesses are including other ethnicities, but as they apparently make up the majority I am wondering why they have to specifically seek them out?
Why can’t we just be “seeking good bloggers”? Why can’t I be judged based on my writing skills, my blog design, my reader numbers? Why does it have to be a race thing?
The Niche Mommy’s blog talks about a diverse conference – for everyone. This conference is all inclusive! They do NOT discriminate based on race, even though some would like to make you think they do. The blogger I mentioned earlier, well, she said “diverse is not talking about religion, it is ethnicity”. This blog talks about the true definition of diversity, and dictionary.com tells us diverse basically just means “different”. The Niche Mommy Conference is about diversity… about being different… and while culture, ethnicity, race, etc are considered diverse… so are other things.
So, based on the stats above, if 85% of the mom bloggers are non-white, then me being white is enough to make me diverse. Yet this certain blogger seems to think I’m not diverse because I’m white.
Nevermind that I’m a non-christian lesbian living in the bible belt, blogging about whatever the heck I want to – even if it gets feathers ruffled….
That’s not diverse at all in the Mommy Blogger World, right?
So, what does diversity mean to YOU?
I’m diverse, damnit!! *stomps foot* I know I should not let one person get me upset about such a silly topic, but I’ve always been very different… and now I’m being told that I’m not diverse enough because of the color of my skin? Yet I don’t necessarily fit in with the people that are “my color”, because I’m not one that fits inside the box. I don’t like people telling me where I don’t fit in at. It’s rude, and I needed to get that off my chest.